Akuqhelekanga ukuba iintsana zilume, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo yindlela ebonisa ngayo ukukhungatheka ukuba awakwazi ukuchaza ngamazwi. Sekunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kuba yinkinga enkulu. Yintoni eyenzekayo xa ukulila kungabhekiswa kuyo kwaye unokwenza ntoni ukuyeka?
Makhe sijonge ukubetha kwabaselula, ezinye zezizathu zokuba kwenzeka okanye ziphikelela, ziziphi iindlela onokuzithatha ukuze unciphise ukubetha, nendlela yokusingatha xa kwenzeka.
Ukubamba kwi-Toddlers
Ukubambisa kuqhelekile kubantwana abaselula kwaye, ukusuka kwindlela yokucinga kwengqondo, ithathwa njengesiqhelo "kweli qela leminyaka. Kuqikelelwa ukuba phakathi kwesithathu nesahlulo sazo zonke iintsana ezisecaleni lokunakekelwa kwondlo ziya kulunywa ngexesha elithile. Ukuzibamba ezincinci kungaba yindlela abantwana abonisa ngayo ukuphazamiseka okanye isidingo sokuqwalasela phambi kokuba banezinye iindlela zokwenza njalo (njengokuthetha.)
Xa abancinci belila, kuphazamisa bonke abachaphazelekayo-abazali, abanonophelo kunye nabantwana. Nangona ukubetha kuqhelekile kubantwana abancinci, abaninzi abaselula abakumalayo baya kuma emva kokulungiswa amaxesha ambalwa. Kukho ke ke, abanye abatsha abaza kuqhubeka bakha ngaphandle kwemizamo yokulungisa indlela yokuziphatha.
Abanye abantwana bafunda ukuluma ekubukeni abanye bafumana indlela yokubetha. Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhala kungenza ukuzimela. Abantwaba abanakho ukulawula ukunyanzelisa , kunye nokugaya kungabangela impendulo yokugqithisa. Ukubetha okuphindaphindiweyo kubantwana abancinci banokuba yinto yokujonga ingqalelo njengokuba abantwana abaselula banqwenela ingqalelo engafanelekanga ingqalelo kuyo yonke into.
Ukuqhagamshelana phakathi kwabantwana abancinci Ukunciphisa ukuBetha kunye neNtetho
Abantwana abanokubambezeleka ngolwimi nolwimi abakwazi ukuziveza kwabanye abantwana okanye abadala. Abancinci abaninzi banengxaki yokuqonda oko abanye bathi kubo. Olu bunzima ukuthetha ukukhungathekisa intetho ukulibazisa abantwana kwaye kunokubangela ukuba balume abanye ngokuphendula.
Intetho kunye nolwimi olulibaziseka abaselula bangasebenzisa ukubetha ukulawula ukusebenzisana kwabo nabanye kwimeko yabo. Kubantwana abaneengxaki zentetho, ukubetha kungathi, "Musa ukundikhathaza. Ndade ndidlala naloo nto."
Iindlela zokuKhusela ukuBamba kunye nokufundisa ukuThuthukiswa kweziThuthi:
Xa kuziwa ekubambeni kubantwana, inxalenye yokuthintela ngokuqinisekileyo ifanele isiqhelo sesigqirha sokunyanga. Kukho uninzi lwezinto onokuzenza ukuze unciphise ithuba lokuba umntwana wakho oza kumluma. Njengoko ukhangelelanisa nale ndlela yokukhusela, nceda ungaziva ukwahlulelwa njengomzali. Nangona kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuze unciphise ukubetha, ezinye iintsana ziza kuluma nangona zibazali abaninzi abanothando nabanomdla. Ukuze kuncitshiswe okanye kuthintele ukubetha, nantsi izicebiso ezimbalwa:
- Khangela abancinci abasemva kwintetho nokuphuhliswa kolwimi ukuvavanya nokuvavanya ukukhubazeka kokufunda . Ulwaphulo lwentetho lunokunceda ekunciphiseni ukuthetha ukunciphisa ukubetha kunye nezinye iingxaki zokuziphatha.
- Hlola ngokukhawuleza abantwana. Abantu abadala kufuneka bajikeleze phakathi kwabantwana ekunakekelwa kwamasango kunokuba babone kude. Ukuba uphakathi kwezinto ezisemncinci, ukhululekile ukubona iimpawu kunye neemvakalelo ezinokubangela ukubetha.
- Qaphela ukungavumelani kunye nokungenelela ngaphambi kokuba kuqhume. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo ukuvumela abantwana "bazisebenzele bona" kodwa ngamanye amaxesha badinga umntu omdala ukuba angene kwaye angenelele.
- Ulwimi olufanelekileyo ulwimi kubo bonke abantwana abasecaleni kwigumbi okanye kwikhaya. Oku kunceda bafunde iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujamelana nokukhungatheka. Ulwimi olungumzekelo lungancedisa abantwana ukuba bathuthule izakhono zokunxibelelana ukudlala ngokufanelekileyo.
- Linda. Uphuhliso lwezakhono lolwimi lithatha ixesha. Iintsana zingadinga inyanga eziliqela zokungenelela kunye nokuhlaziya ukufunda izakhono zentetho entsha kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo.
- Hambisa abancinci abancinci kwelinye indawo yokudlala okanye bancede bakhethe umdlalo okanye umdlalo ohlukeneyo xa iingxabano zisuka. Sebenzisa ixesha ukuphuma xa kufuneka.
- Gcina indawo yokudlala ngokucwangcisiweyo kwaye ugcinwe ngamathoyizi aneleyo kunye nezibonelelo kuzo zonke iintsana.
- Qinisekisa indawo efanelekileyo yokudlala ngaphandle kokuqhuma. Abanye abancinci badinga indawo eyongezelelekileyo kunabanye, kwaye ukuba oku kungabonakaliyo, ukukhala kungenzeka.
- Bonke abancinci badinga ishedyuli nesakhiwo ukuze baqonde oko kulindeleke kubo. Ukuseka iinkqubo eziza kwenzeka.
- Gcina amandla omncinci kunye neemfuno zondlo. Ukubonelela ngesondlo esifanelekileyo, ixesha lokudlala kunye nexesha le-nap.
- Gcina umoya woxolo kwiiklasi. Gwema abancinci abangakhuthazayo ngokudlala.
Yintoni oyenzayo xa abantwana beBite Bite
Nangona kukho yonke imizamo yakho yokuthintela, abancinci banokuluma. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nento omele uyenze xa umncinane ebetha:
- Ekunyangweni, abasebenzi kufuneka baqeqeshwe ukuba babukele ukulila. Kwakhona kufuneka babe noqeqesho kwindawo yokuqala yokunceda. Uncedo lokuqala lokubamba amanxeba anjengokubetha lunokuthi luhluke kakhulu kunokuba luncedo lokuqala lwezinye iintlobo zokulimala ezifana nokuqhwala.
- Xhumana nabazali ukuba ukuluma kuthatha ingqalelo unyango. Abazali mabahlale bekwaziswa ukuba umntwana wabo uyaluma okanye utyumkile.
- Vumela umntwana omncinci ukuba abone ukuba umntwana uyalimala uncediswa. Ukunyamekela ngakumbi umntwana owaliweyo uyomeleza ukuba ukubetha akulungile. Ukuba umntwana okhulayo uzimisele kwaye uzolile, oku kungaba ngumzuzu ofundisekayo wokuthetha ngovelwano .
- Ukusabalalisa imeko ngokuhambisa abantwana kude kwabanye baze badibene.
- Phendula ngokukhawuleza ukukhalisa, njengoko ingqalelo encinci yomntwana ifutshane.
- Ungaze uvumele nabani na ukuba balume umntwana omncinane ukuba "bamfundise ukuba buhlungu."
- Yilungele ukucacisa kubazali indlela oye wabhekisela ngayo ukulila. Qinisekisa ngamanyathelo oya kuthatha ukukhusela abancinci ukuba bangabali kwikamva.
- Zama ukuqonda imeko okanye ukukhungatheka okubangela ukuluma nokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba omnye umntwana uthathe ithoyilo yomntwana, vumela umntwana ukuba akuxelele ukuba wayethukuthele. Emva koko uthethe ngeendlela ezingcono zokujamelana naloo msindo xa kufuneka kwakhona. Ukubanjwa kungabakho ithuba lokufundisa umntwana wakho ngeemvakalelo zakhe .
- Khumbula ukugcina ugxininiso ekuziphatheni kunokuba ngumntwana. Umzekelo, ukutsho ukuba akulungile ukuba uluma kangcono kunokuba uthi awukho kakuhle ukuba uyaluma. Ukusebenzisa okuKulungile okanye kungekho kakuhle kudla ngokubhetele kunokuthetha into enhle okanye embi njengoko ikwazisa kunokuba ijeziswe.
- Naliphi na iindlela ozisebenzisayo ukujongana nokulila, zama ukuphepha ukuhlazisa umntwana.
Izwi elivela kwi-Verywell kwi-Biting kwi-Toddlers
Ukuba umntanakho uyabetha, mhlawumbi uxinzelele yonke indlela. Oku kubandakanya umntwana okanye umntu omdala otyumkileyo, inxaxheba yakho njengabazali bomntwana okanye umboneleli wesikhokelo somhla, kunye neemvakalelo zebantwana abakhokelela ekubetheni kwindawo yokuqala.
Ukuba eli lixesha lokuqala "liluma, kubalulekile ukujonga imeko leyo eyabangela ukuluma. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka nakumancinci, kwaye ukungahoywa ngumxhaphazi kunye nokusola umntwana okhuselweyo kunokubangela iingxaki zokuziphatha ezingaphezulu komgca.
Umntwana oqhubeka ekuluma, ukuvavanya intetho nolwimi kubalulekile njengoko kukho ubudlelwane phakathi kokulibazisa nokubambezeleka kokuthetha. Kule meko, ukulila kungabakho "iiflegi ebomvu" efumana umntwana uncedo oluyidingayo ekujonganeni nengxaki yokufunda.
Okona kubaluleke kukuba abantu abadala abachaphazelekayo kufuneka baziphathe ngokuzithoba nangenhlonipho. Abazali bomntwana obethwayo bayakucaphukisa ngokukhusela komntwana wabo, kodwa ukumangalela ngokumangalela akunakukunceda. Ngokufanayo, abazali bomntwana obethayo banokuba neentloni okanye banqwenela ukumemeza ngokubangela ukuba kubangele ukutshaya, kodwa oku akunakunceda. Abanikezeli bemihla ngemihla, ukusuka kwelinye ikota, banokukhathazeka ngemimiselo esemthethweni yokubetha. Imodeli yabantwana indlela yokuziphatha yabantu abadala phakathi kwabo, kwaye abantwana abaselula kufuneka babone ukuba imeko efana nokubetha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, unokusingathwa ngokucokisekileyo nangenhlonipho.
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> I-American Psychological Association. Imibuzo ebalulekileyo. 2011. http://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/02/biting.aspx