Enoba uphulaphule i-nail-biter ibali kumngane, okanye ufumana uncedo ku-ugogo wakho, ukuba umntwana wakho unokuthetha okuthile, unokuphazamiseka. Ukulinda ithuba lokuthetha lingaziva ngathi unaphakade kubantwana kunye nokungaphelelwa umonde kubangelwa ukuba bazifakele kwingxoxo.
Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba bangaziphazamisi iingxoxo zabanye kubaluleke kakhulu.
Abantwana abaqonda indlela yokungena ngenxaxheba kwintetho-endaweni yokuthetha ngabantu-baya kuphumelela ngakumbi ekuphuhliseni nasekugcineni ubudlelwane.
Isizathu sokuba abantwana bahlale bephazamisa
Abantwana bavame ukuphazamisa iingxoxo zabantu abadala kuba baxhalabile. Ukuba uthetha nomnye ngomxholo omdala kunye nomntwana wakho akabandakanyekanga kwincoko, unokusenokuphazamisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengomzamo wokuzondla yena kwaye ufumane ingqalelo .
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banomdla ukulinda ithuba lokuthetha ngoba bafuna ukuthetha. Bangeke bathambekele ekugqibeleni izinto ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuba abanye abantu bathetha. Ngenxa yoko, banokuthabatha ukuthetha ngabantu kunokuba balinde ithuba lokuba bafunde ukuziphatha okungcono.
Kukho nabantwana abaye baqaphele ukuthotywa kweentlalo. Basenokungayiqondi ngokupheleleyo into yokuba ukubuza umbuzo ngelixa uthetha nomnye umntu uhlambalaza.
Basenokufuna imfundo ethile kunye nokuqeqesha ukuba bafunde ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka xa abanye bethetha.
Umzekelo oMzekelo Wokuziphatha okufanelekileyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba ngamaxesha apho kuya kufuneka uphazamise umntwana wakho. Sebenzisa isiganeko ngasinye njengethuba lokumisela indlela yokwenza oko ngenhlonipho.
Ukuba unetyala lokuphazamisa umntwana wakho xa uthetha, uya kufunda ukuba kulungile ukuthetha ngabantu.
Bonisa umonde kwaye uzimisele ukulinda ixesha xa umntwana wakho uthetha.
Ukuba ufanele unqumle-mfutshane-njengokuba uphakathi kwebali elide kwaye ufuna ukuba ubeke izicathulo zakhe ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma emnyango.
Endaweni yokumcima nje, uthi, "Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ndiphazamise ibali lakho ngoku, kodwa kufuneka ufumane izicathulo zakho ukuze sihambe."
Ukuba ibhali elide libonakala liyiqhinga lokuyeka ukwenza into efana nokulala, cacisa ukuba ufuna ukuva ibali kodwa awukwazi ukuliva ngoku. Yithi, "Ndingathanda ukuva lonke ibali lakho kodwa ngoku lixesha lokulala. Unokundixelela ngokunye kusasa. "
Ukuseka iMithetho malunga nokuziphatha okuhloniphekileyo
Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba ukuphazamisa kunokuphazamisa iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kwaye kubonwa njengento engcolileyo. Chaza indlela ukulinda ithuba lokuthetha kuthetha ngayo intlonipho. Yakha umthetho wekhaya onjengokuthi , "Bonisa intlonelo kubantu xa bethetha."
Kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuxoxa ngokungafani kumgaqo. Musa ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba "angalokothi aphazamise." Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho amaxesha apho ukuphazamiseka kuyafaneleka-njengokuthi indlu iya kutshisa. Chaza amaxesha anokwenzeka apho kulungile ukuphazamisa, njengokuba kukho umba wokhuseleko.
Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Oko Ukwenza Endaweni
Ukuxelela nje umntwana wakho ukuba alinde ixesha lakhe akuvumelekanga. Abantwana abasebancinci abaqhelekanga ukufumana izakhono zentlalo ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqaphele ingxoxo kwingxoxo apho kuyafaneleka ukufaka khona.
Ngoko kunokuba uxelele abantwana kufuneka balinde de ube usuqedile ukuthetha, yakha icebo lokubonisa umntwana wakho iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokufumana ingqalelo yakho.
Ukuba ungaphakathi kwintetho endala, kwaye ufuna ukucela imvume yokuphuma ngaphandle, yintoni enokuyenza? Mhlawumbi unokunika uphawu lokuba unemibuzo ngokubeka isandla emlenzeni wakho.
Emva koko, xa kukho ikhefu kwingxoxo, unokwenza ingqalelo kuye.
Ungavumeli Ukuphazamiseka ukuba kusebenze
Ukuba uhlala unqamle into oyenzayo ukunyamekela umntwana ophazamisayo, uya kugxininisa ukuba ukuphazamisa indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokufumana ingqwalasela. Ngoko qiniseka ukuba xa umntwana wakho ephazamisa, awuzenzeli ngokuzenzekelayo impendulo ayifunayo.
Ukubonelela isikhumbuzo esifana nesithi, "Uphazamisa intetho yethu kwaye ayikhohlisi. Ndiza kuphendula umbuzo wakho ngcaciso emfutshane xa kukho ixesha lakho. "
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka ukuphazamisa emva kwesilumkiso, ukunyamekela kungasabela kakuhle. Mbonise ukuba ukuphazamisa akuyi kusebenza. Ixesha lokuphuma linye enye inketho ukuba uyaqhubeka ukuphazamisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Nika ininzi indumiso xa umntwana wakho engafuni ukuphazamisa. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba ulinde ngokubekezela ithuba lokuthetha, phawula kwaye umbulele ngokuziphatha ngokuhloniphayo. Ukubonelela ngenyameko ekuziphatheni kakuhle kunokumthintela ukuba angaphazamisi.
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