Yintoni ongayenza xa wena kunye neqabane lakho ningaboni isohlo kweso
Ukuyalula abantwana - kunye nokubeletha ngokubanzi-ngumsebenzi omele ulawulwe njengeqela, kunye nabazali bobabini basebenza kunye ukwenza okulungileyo kumntwana wabo. Kodwa ekubeni zonke izibini zenziwa ngabantu, ngamava ahlukeneyo kunye nemvelaphi yabo yemvelo, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba abazali bahlale bengavumelani neendlela zabo zokhetho okanye iindlela zokubazali .
Nantsi indlela onokuyisebenzisa ngayo loo meko ekhohlakeleyo xa ungavumelani nokuziphatha kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zomzali zakho zikhokelela ekuxabaneni nasekuxhatheni.
Yenza iinjongo zakho ezifanayo
Yintoni nonke enifuna ukuyifeza kwiinkqubo zoluleko? Ngaba ufuna umntwana wakho alaphule kakuhle ? Akulwe nomntakwabo ? Thatha iimpawu zakhe zokudlala? Emva koko uthethe ngendlela ofuna ukuyifeza ngayo loo njongo: ngokuthetha, iitshathi zokuziphatha , ukuphuma kwexesha , ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo, okanye neminye imiphumo .
Thetha malunga noko kuhamba kakuhle
Uvumelekile ukuba ungavumelani ngento okwangoku kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uhlale ukhumbuza - ngakumbi xa ungekho kwiphepha elifanayo-zonke izinto ezisebenzayo. Ingaba umntwana wakho ungumntwana onobubele onobubele othanda ukubanceda abanye ? Ngaba unenkathazo yokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, ongabangelwa ukuba nomsebenzi wesikolo kakhulu okanye inkathazo yokufunda, kungekhona umcimbi wokuziphatha, kodwa uthanda ukufunda ?
Dumisani umsebenzi owenziwe kunye nomnye kwaye uqaphele umntwana omhle okhulayo.
Hlonipha indlela yomlingani wakho kunye nembono yokujonga
Phu laphula ngaphandle kokuphazamisa kwaye ucinge ngokucacileyo malunga noko athethayo. (Ukuba kukho imfuneko, vumela ukuthatha ikhefu kwingxoxo ukuze nonke nibe nexesha lokucinga malunga nento enye ithethayo.) Ungalokothi ungcolise iqabane lakho.
Xa omnye umzali egxekisa enye phambi kwezingane okanye ephazamise igunya lakhe (nithi, ngokunika abantwana i-candy xa omnye umzali echaza ukuba akukho iilekese ngaphambi kokutya), ithumela imilayezo edibeneyo yabantwana kwaye iyanciphisa igunya labazali kunye nokuphumelela. Nangona ungavumelani nesigqibo somlingani wakho, hlonipha kwaye usebenze kunye neqabane lakho ukuze uzame ukwenza utshintsho ngaphandle kokubandakanya abantwana.
Musa ukuphikisa phambi komntwana wakho
Ingxaki yokuziphatha komntwana ibonisa ukuba sele sele efuna ukukhokelwa kunye noqeqesho oluvela kuwe. Xa ulwa phambi komntwana wakho, kuya kudibanisa kuphela kwiingxaki enokuba nazo kwaye kuya kumenza angakhuselekanga, athukuthele, akhathazeke kwaye athukutheke. Ukuze uqeqeshe ngokufanelekileyo, udinga isiseko sokuthembela, uxolo, ukuzola, kunye nokukhuseleka, kwaye ukuphikisana phambi komntwana wakho kukhokelela ekuphambene naso.
Khawuqwalasele oko kunokubangela isicwangciso soqeqesho
Abazali bavame ukwenza ukhetho malunga nabazali kunye nokuqeqesha ngokusekelwe kumava abo abantwana. Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lalitshatyalaliswa njengomntwana kwaye uyicinga indlela efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha kwaye ukholelwa ukuba abazali abathandayo abantwana babo kufuneka babethe abantwana babo. Okanye umzali omnye unokuvela kwindawo engakhuselekanga-engafuni ukulandela ukuziphatha kunye nemiphumo kuba uyakhathazeka ukuba umntwana akayi kumthanda.
Vumelana nabanye kufuneka babe neemigaqo-khadi
Nangona umzali omnye engakholelwa ukuba ukuphalaza kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokufumana abantwana ukuba baziphathe kakuhle, ubuninzi obuninzi bophando kunye neengcali zempilo kunye nophuhliso lwezonyango (njengama-American Academy of Pediatrics) bayavuma ukuba isohlwayo se-corporal asikho nje kuphela, kodwa sinakhokelela iziphumo ezintle zezingane ezibandakanya ukunyanzeliswa, ukuziphatha kakubi, ukungabi novelwano kunye nomonakalo kubhondi bomntwana nabantwana . Ngokufanayo, ukumemeza kuye kwadibaniswa nemiphumo emibi kubantwana. Thetha nomlingane wakho malunga nokuba kutheni ezinye iindlela zokuqeqesha zingabangela ingozi kwaye zixubushe iindlela eziza kusebenza kangcono kubantwana.
Fumana loo ndlela yesithathu
Kungenzeka ukuba akufanele ube ngowakho okanye wam - unokuhlala kunye kunye nesisombululo esibandakanya izikhundla zakho zombini kwaye into entsha ongayidala kunye.
Tshintshisana
Le nto uhlala ucela umntwana wakho ukuba ayenze nabahlobo okanye umntakwabo. Kodwa kuyinto enhle ukuba abazali benze njalo, ingakumbi xa bengavumi malunga nokuziphatha . Zama indlela yeqabane lakho kwaye uzame wena uze ubone ukuba ngubani osebenzayo. (Khumbula: Yintoni esebenza kumntwana omnye ayinakusebenza omnye; xa kufikelele ekufundiseni abantwana, akukho sisisombululo esinye esifanelekileyo.)
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