Xa ukuqhuma kwezikolo ezibuhlungu kukuthatha iintloko, akumangalisi ukuba abazali kunye nabantwana babo bafumana inkxalabo kunye nenkxalabo yokuba ukuqhuma kunokuba kwenzeke esikolweni sabo. Enyanisweni, akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu bavelele yonke into bexakekile kunye nosizi, ukunyaniseka, ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba kunye nomsindo.
Nangona ukutshulwa kwesikolo kukukoyiko lokwenene, inyaniso kukuba basenqabile kunqabileyo xa kuthelekiswa nezinye iingozi zobutsha obujongene neengozi zemoto, ukugqithisa kunye nokuzibulala.
Sekunjalo, eli qiniso alenzeki loyiko olungenakwenene okanye olunzulu. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuthatha amanyathelo okunciphisa ezo ntswelo kunye nexhala ukuze ingcamango yokudubula esikolweni ayidliyo yonke.
Hamba ngokuvumelana neentlonelo zakho
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekujongeni ukwesaba ngenxa yokudubula kwesikolo kukujonga izinto ozikhathazayo kunye nokukhathazeka kwakho. Nangona kusemgangathweni ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba ukhathazeke kwaye ukwesaba ukuthumela umntwana wakho esikolweni kwiintsuku kunye neveki emva kokudubula esikolweni kwenye indawo ezweni, ukuba kukuphazamisa ukwazi kwakho ukuvumela abantwana bakho ukuba basebenze ngokuqhelekileyo, ixesha ukumba ubuncinane.
Ngamanye amaxesha ezi nkxalabo zibhekiselele kakhulu ngoncedo lweengcali zempilo yengqondo. Ngokufanayo, akuyiyo into oya kuyo ingcaciso ecacileyo kunye nezingane zakho, kuquka nabantwana bakho abaselula. Ngokufanelekileyo, abantwana bakho baya kubona ukuba uxhalabele ngokukodwa kodwa ungesabi.
Zama ukuba ungabambeleli xa ushiya esikolweni kwaye ugcine iingxoxo ezixhalabileyo kubantu abadala ebomini bakho.
Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zabantwana bakho
Akuqhelekanga kubantwana, nangona abatsha, ukuziva bexhala okanye ukukhathazeka imihla ngemihla esikolweni . Kwaye, ukuba kukho umbhobho wokuqhubela umbhobho , okanye nokuba ngumlilo, le nto iphakamisa ukukhathazeka kunye nenkxalabo abanayo malunga nokudubula.
Ngenxa yoko, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nabantwana bakho malunga neemvakalelo zabo. Nangona umntwana wakho engathethi nto malunga nokudubula kwesikolo esandula, qalisa ingxoxo malunga nayo. Kungenxa yokuba bangathethi, akuthethi ukuba abaxhalabele okanye abanenkxalabo.
Le ncoko inokukuvumela ukuba ulinganise ukuba bunzima kangakanani na ukwesaba nokuxhalabisa. Khumbula, ukuthetha ngokutya kunempilo. Ngoko, xhathisa umgudu wokuzama ukugqithisa izinto okanye ukunciphisa iimvakalelo zabo. Qinisekisa ukuba uphulaphule ukukhathazeka kwabo kwaye uyilungise ngokunyanisekileyo nangaphandle kokugweba.
Qinisekisa abantwana bakho
Ngokwe-American School Counselor Association, kubalulekile ukukhumbuza abantwana ukuba iindawo ezilungileyo apho izinto ezimbi zenzeke ngezinye izikhathi. Ukongezelela, bakhumbuze ukuba baninzi abantu abasebenza nzima ukuba baqinisekise ukuba olu hlobo lento alenzekanga esikolweni sabo.
Ngokomzekelo, phawula iindlela ezithile zesikolo sakho esikolweni esikwenza ukhuseleko. Imizekelo ingabandakanya iingcango ezivaliweyo, inkqubo ye-intercom, efuna ukungena kuphela kwi-ofisi yangaphambili, ukukhusela ukhuseleko kunye nokukhuseleko okwandisiweyo.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuthetha nabo ngokubaluleka kokuthetha xa kukho into ebonakalayo okanye ephosakeleyo esikolweni, kuluntu lwabo nakwi-intanethi kungakhathaliseki ukuba encinci okanye ingabalulekanga kubonakala ngelo xesha.
Kufuneka baxelele ngakumbi ingongoma yobundlobongela okanye kwimpilo yengqondo abayifumanayo.
Ukunciphisa ukuboniswa kweeNdaba zeMidiya kunye neendaba
Ukusebenzisa ixabiso elininzi lolwazi malunga nokudubula kwesikolo kunokuyingozi kakhulu kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo. Enyanisweni, ngokuqhelekileyo iphakamisa uxhalabo kunye nokwesaba, okwenze kube nzima kubo ukuba bazive beliphi induduzo ekuya esikolweni rhoqo.
Kungaba lula ukucima iindaba xa abantwana bakho bebonke. Izikhumbuzo eziqhubekayo zokudubula esikolweni aziyi kunceda imeko yazo. Kunoko, qaphela iingxelo zeendaba kwaye ukhuthaze ingxoxo yentsapho malunga nale meko.
Ukuqulunqa iindlela abanokuhlala bekhuselekileyo kwiimeko ezifanayo kwaye bavumele ukuba bakhulume ngeengxaki zabo ukuba kwenzeke esikolweni sabo. Isibalulekileyo kukugcina intetho ivulekileyo kodwa ingabi ukwenza ukudubula kwesikolo ngesihloko kwintetho nganye yentsapho .
Namathela kwixesha lakho
Ulwakhiwo kunye nemizila-kuquka ukuya esikolweni-kunika abantwana ingqiqo yokhuseleko kunye nokuqikelela, ngokutsho kweengcali kwi-American School Counselor Association. Enyanisweni, ufuna ukuphepha ukugcina abantwana bakho ekhaya esikolweni ngenxa yokwesaba okanye ukukhathazeka kwesikolo sokudubula. Ukwenza njalo, kuya kuphakamisa ukwesaba kunye nexhala malunga nokudubula kwesikolo kwaye kwenze kube nzima nakakhulu ukubuyela esikolweni kamva.
Njengoko kunzima, kubalulekile ukuthumela umntwana wakho esikolweni ngesiseko esifanayo. Ngokufanayo, ungatshintshi izicwangciso zakho emva kwesikolo kuba lusuku olunzima kangaka. Ukunamathela kwizicwangciso zakho kuya kunceda abantwana bakho bazive ukuba ihlabathi liyakwazi oko. Oku kunceda kwakhona ukunyamezela kwabantwana bakho.
Fumana iNdlela Yokuthatha Isenzo
Kwabanye abantu, kuquka nabantwana kunye nentsha, ukuthatha inyathelo emva kwentlekele efana nokudubula esikolweni kuhlakulela umqondo wokulawula. Ngenxa yoko, isicwangciso sendlela kunye neendlela zezingane zakho unokusebenzisana kunye nokujongana nombandela.
Ngokomzekelo, unokusebenzisana ukukhulisa imali kwiintsapho zezixhoba zokudubula esikolweni. Okanye abantwana bakho bangabhala ukuxhasa, ukukhuthaza iincwadi kubatitshala nabafundi apho ukuqhuma kwesikolo kwenzeka khona.
Ezi zenzo azibonisi kuphela ezichaphazelayo ukuba uzikhathalele, kodwa kunceda umlobi wencwadi ukufunda indlela yokubonisa uvelwano . Kubazali bezingane ezikhulile kunye nentsha, unokuqwalasela ukujoyina kunye kunye nokuya kwiintlanganiso zezopolitiko. Ukuthatha amanyathelo afana nalawa akuncedisi nje abantwana bakho bazive benamandla , kodwa kubancedisa ukuba banokuchaphazela ihlabathi elibangqongileyo.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Khumbula, iingcamango ezinyanzelisayo malunga nogonyamelo lwesikolo oludlulileyo ngaphezu kweentsuku ezimbalwa zingabonakalisa iimpawu zempilo yengqondo engakumbi . Xhumana nomniki-nkonzo wakho wezempilo okanye ngumphathi wezezifo zengqondo ukuze ukhokele ukuba ukwesaba umntwana wakho kubonakala kuninzi okanye kukuphazamisa ubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla.
> Imithombo:
> Ukunceda abantwana emva kokudubula, uMbutho weBhunga leMerika waseMelika. https://www.schoolcounselor.org/school-counselors/professional-velopment/learn-more/shooting-ources
> Ukulawula Ukuxhatshazwa Kwakho Ngemva Kokudubula KweSikolo, uMbutho WezeNgqondo waseMerika. http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/mass-shooting.aspx