I-kati yakho iya kukhula kwaye iya kufuna isikhokelo sokujongana nento ezayo
Iminyaka emibini ayilula kumntu, umzali okanye umntwana, inkwenkwe okanye intombazana. Kodwa iminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ingaba nzima kakhulu kumantombazana. Ubushushu buphela nje. Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aphethe esikolweni esiphakeme, kufuneka ahambe ngendlela yakhe esikolweni esiphakathi, amakhwenkwe, umfanekiso womzimba, uxinzelelo lwaontanga kunye nezinye iitoni. Nangona umntwana wakho uya kufunda ezininzi ngeklasi yezemfundo yesini, ufuna ukuba umxelele oko akufuna ukwazi, kwaye kufuneka akhunjuzwe ukuba uya kuba khona ukumnceda zonke iindlela zokuhamba.
Ukuba intombi yakho isanda kuqalisa iminyaka yakhe emininzi, okanye ukuba unenkathazo yokwenza le minyaka edlulileyo, ungesabi. Kukho iingcebiso ongazenzayo ukumnceda ukuba alungise kwaye aphumelele kangangokuba ngelixa athe angena esikolweni esiphakeme, uya kuhamba ngendlela yakhe ukuba abe ngumfazi oselula owaziyo ukuba uya kuba.
Isikhokelo Sokuba Ngaphakathi
- Ubushushu buyindalo (kodwa intlungu!): Intombi yakho iya kufaka ubusuku xa iphakathi. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho kunokusongela intombazana, kwaye zonke iinguqulelo ezihamba nazo zingenza bazive bazimele. Incwadi enhle malunga nokuphelelwa kwintshukumo iya kubamba intombi yakho ngolwazi olufunekayo ukuyifumana. Mxhase kwaye uncedise ukukhathaza nayiphi na imingeni engabhekana nayo yokutshatyalaliswa kwayo-njengokuthatha ixesha lakhe esikolweni, okanye ukujongana neenkampu zokuya esikhathini.
- Amakhwenkwe angamaBhantshi: Kwakungomcimbi nje ngaphambi kokuba intombazana yakho ibone ukuba abafana babengenalo icky njengoko wayecinga ngaphambili. Iintombi zamantombazana ziyakwazi ukukhwabanisa umfana, kodwa abazali bazilumko ukutshutshisa yonke into yokuba intombi yabo ikhulile kwaye ikhula ngakumbi. Umdlalo ohamba kunye nothando unokuba lukhulu kwaye uphazamise, kwaye ufuna ukuba intombi yakho igxile kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu: amabakala akhe; yakhe intsapho; bakhe bahlobo; kunye neemfuno zakhe. Qinisekisa ukuba intombi yakho iyazi okokuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwaye uyithobele ingqalelo ekuziphatheni kwayo kwi-inthanethi. Jonga, ubuze imibuzo uze uhlale uqhagamshelana nabanye abazali ukuba uhlale unolwazi malunga noko kwenzekayo nabangani bakho kunye noontanga bakho.
- Isikolo esiphakathi siqine: Kulungile, isikolo esiphakathi sinokuba nzima . Ukuxhatshazwa kwandisa esikolweni esiphakathi, kwaye kuthetha ukuba intombazana iyindawo yonke. Kodwa ngokulungelelanisa, unokukunceda intombi yakho ibhekane nazo zombini. Ukongezelela, isikolo esiphakathi sikhona nethuba lentombi yakho ukuba isasaze amaphiko ayo ncinane. Mkhuthaze ukuba amkele iklabhu, iqela lezemidlalo okanye urhulumente wabafundi. Ukuba akayiyo nayiphi na imisebenzi yale sikolo, unokuncedisa ukuncedisa utitshala emva kwesikolo okanye athathe inxaxheba kwintsebenzo yecandelo elongezelelweyo engazange azame ngaphambili. Ukunikela ngokukhetha, kwaye apho ahlala khona.
- Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga luya kuGcinwa: i- Tweens iyinyamezelo oluninzi lweengcinezelo zontanga . Uxinzelelo lokuba ungene kuyo, uxinzelelo lokuba unxibe iimpahla ezithile, uxinzelelo ukuya kutshatyalaliswa kwaye uphinde uxinzelele ukuxhatshaza ezinye izinto. Nika umntwana wakho ithemba lokuba uya kulwa nokunyanzela uxinzelelo lwaontanga. Mkhuthaza ukuba akhe ubuhlobo obuphilileyo, kwaye uyazi ukuba uya kumxhasa ngexesha elibuhlungu. Phakamisa indlela abanye abahlobo abanokuphilileyo kunye nabanye abangenasiphelo, kwaye banike ithuba lokuba banwebelele abajikelezileyo ngabahlobo ngemisebenzi yesikhashana, kwinkampu yehlobo, icawa okanye isikolo.
- Kukho Iimononongo zoNwabo ukuba zibe nazo: Ukuba intombazana ephakathi kunokukwazi ukufumana ubuchule kunye nobutyebi. Intombi yakho iyazi ukuba le minyaka izele utshintsho kunye nethuba. Ncedeni ahlole iimfuno zakhe kunye neetalente, kwaye qiniseka ukuba uthatha ixesha lokubambisana nomntwana wakho ngawo onke amathuba. Cwangcisa ixesha kunye, kwaye ujonge phambili kwiziganeko zonyaka owaziyo ukuba uya kuzinandipha, ezifana nokuzalwa, izithuba zokuphumla, ikhefu lekhefu kunye nokunye.
- Musa ukukhathazeka kakhulu: Phakathi kwamantombazana akhathazeke ngeento zonke. Ingaba okanye zikhona, zihle okanye zihlakaniphile. Enoba bayalinganisa kakhulu okanye bancinane kakhulu. Uluhlu luqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Uya kunceda intombi yakho ngokumfundisa ukubeka izinto ngendlela ebonakalayo kunye nokwamkela okulungileyo. Oku kuya kumnceda ngeminyaka emibini, nangaphezulu. Kwaye kunokukunceda ukuphatha iinkxalabo zakho kunye nexhala le minyaka embalwa elandelayo.