Kukho amabali amaninzi kwiindaba ezikufutshane malunga nabazali ababiza amapolisa kubantwana babo abancinci. Abazali abafuni ukuba abantwana babo babanjwe, nangona kunjalo. Kunoko, bafuna nje ukuba amapolisa abonise kwaye ayikayikise umntwana wabo ekuziphatheni.
Ingaba uyagula kwaye ukhathele ukuziphatha kwakho okungahloneliyo-8 ubudala, okanye ufuna ukukholisa umntwana oneminyaka engama-12 ubudala ukuba ayeke ukukhetha udade wakhe, cinga kabini ngaphambi kokusebenzisa amapolisa njengendlela yokuthusa.
Nazi izizathu ezisixhenxe zokuba kutheni amapolisa kumntwana wakho akuyiyo ingcamango efanelekileyo:
1. Kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba awukwazi ukuphatha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Ukubiza ukuba amapolisa ayomeleza kumntwana wakho ukuba awunayo indlela efanelekileyo yokumqeqesha ekhaya. Kubonisa ukuba ufuna ipolisa ukuba isebenze njengomqolo wakho. Umntwana wakho unokuphelelwa yithemba ekukwazi ukumgcina ekhuselekileyo ukuba ucinga ukuba kufuneka usebenzise ukubiza amapolisa ukuba aphathe ukuziphatha kwakhe.
2. Umntwana wakho akanakufunda isifundo ocebayo. Ukuba ubiza amapolisa ngenxa yecala elingelona libi kakhulu, amapolisa akayi kwenza into engaphaya kokuthetha nomntwana wakho. Bangamnika isilumkiso okanye bamxelele ukuba "baziphathe." Kodwa, ekugqibeleni, ukungenelela kwabo kungaphindela.
Umntwana unokuphetha ngokuthi, "Ekubeni, ukuba unamapolisa ekubizayo akuyona into enkulu. Ukuphulaphula isifundo akuyona into enkulu kubantwana abaninzi. Ukulahlekelwa ngamalungelo amahora angama-24 kunokwenzeka ukuba kusebenze ngokugqithiseleyo kunokugqitywa okufutshane kwipolisa.
3. Ukwesaba amaqhinga kaninzi akwenzi ukuguquka ngonaphakade. Iingcwangu zamatye zivame ukusebenza ngempumelelo ngexesha elifutshane kodwa emva kwexesha, zilahlekelwa ngempumelelo. Umntwana unokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha ngayo iintsuku - okanye iiveki - emva kokungenelela kwamapolisa. Kodwa, njengoko ukwesaba kuncedisa, iindlela zokuziphatha ezindala ziyakwazi ukubuyela.
4. Akubambanga ngokungadingekile amapolisa. Indima yamapolisa kukugcina uluntu lukhuselekile. Ukubizela amapolisa kwikhaya lakho ukugxeka umntwana wakho kubavimbela ukwenza imisebenzi yabo. Uneminye imisebenzi ebalulekileyo - njengokuthintela ulwaphulo-mthetho nokuphendula kwiimeko eziphuthumayo-ezinokuba ngumcimbi wobomi okanye ukufa kubantu abemi.
5. Isiphumo singaphantsi kwezandla zakho. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala bomntwana kunye nobunzima bomcimbi, unganakho ukulawula malunga nendlela amapolisa asabela ngayo kwisicelo sakho. Nangona uthe ungazifuni ukuba umntwana wakho abekwe icala ngolwaphulo-mthetho, awukwazi ukukhetha.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwimithetho kwimeko yakho, iindleko zingacinwa emva kokuba wenze umnxeba. Emva koko, inkundla yenkundla iya kuba nokulawula oko kwenzekayo kumntwana wakho, kungekhona wena. Nangona kukho ixesha elinokuthi uvumele umnxeba kumapolisa kumntwana wakho, qaphela imiphumo enokuthi.
6. Ukubiza amapolisa kuya kuchaphazela ulwalamano lwakho. Ukuqhagamshelana namapolisa kumntwana wakho ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakubi kunokwenzeka ukuba uthathe umonakalo olwalamano lwakho nomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho unokuziva unengcamango yokungcatsha kwaye akanakukuthemba esikhathini esizayo. Ngelishwa, ulwalamano olonakalisiweyo nomntwana wakho lungakhokelela kwiingxaki zokuziphatha ezikhulayo.
7. Amapolisa anikezeli unyango. Ukuba iingxaki zomntwana wakho zinzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba ucinga ukubiza amapolisa, funa uncedo lwezakhono . Umntwana wakho unokufumana ingxaki yokuziphatha okanye unokufuna indlela eyahlukileyo yokuziphatha. Ngaphambi kokuba ubize amapolisa, thetha nomntwana wengane yakho kwaye ucele ukuthunyelwa kwiphilisi. Kubalulekile ukulawula imiba efana ne- ADHD okanye i- ODD , enokuphendula kakuhle kunyango, kunokuba kungenelelo lwamapolisa.