Ukufumana umntwana olala ebusweni akusoloko kulula
Nantsi into enokumangalisa ngokwenene: Njengokuba sinokufuna ukuba iintsana zethu zilale ubusuku, iimvakalelo zethu zingaphantsi kwamanye amazwe zisikhusela ekukhutsheni ukutshintsha kwindlela yokulala yabantwana bethu. Wena ngokwakho unokuba ngumqobo onqanda ukutshintshwa kwenkqubo ephazamisa ubomi bakho. Ngoko makhe sibone ukuba nantoni na imile endleleni yakho.
Hlola iimfuno zakho kunye neenjongo
Uluntu lwa namhlanje lukhokelela ekubeni sikholwe ukuba "iintsana eziqhelekileyo" zilala ubusuku busuka kwiinyanga ezimbini; Uphando lwam lubonisa ukuba oku kungaphezulu kwelo mthetho. Inani leentsapho kwisikhephe sakho lingazalisa iinqanawa zeenqanawa zokuhamba.
Ngabe Umntwana Wakho (Wani) Walala Ngobusuku Ngokukhawuleza?
Kufuneka uqonde apho ingxaki yakho ilele khona. Ingaba ngumntwana wakho , ngolawulo lwakho, okanye nje engqondweni yabantu? Ukuba unokwenene uthi ufuna ukutshintsha indlela yokulala yentsana kuba ziphazamisa wena kunye nosapho lwakho, ngoko ulungele ukwenza utshintsho. Kodwa ukuba uziva uphoqelekile ekutshintsheni iipatheni zentsana yakho kuba uMkhulukazi omkhulu uBeulah okanye umhlobo wakho ovela kwiqela lokudlala uthi yindlela okufanele ukuba yintoni, lixesha lokucinga okude.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba wakho omncinci uya kukuvusa yonke iyure okanye ezimbini, akudingeki ucinge ixesha elide kumbuzo othi, "Ngaba oku kuphazamisa kum?" Kucacile ukuba.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uvuke kanye kanye okanye kabini ngobusuku, kubalulekile ukuba uqinisekise ngokucacileyo ukuba le ndlela ikuphazamise kangakanani, kwaye unqume ngesinjongo esifanelekileyo. Ukunyaniseka ekuhloleni imiphumo yesimo ebomini bakho. Qala namhlanje ngokucamngca le mibuzo:
- Ngaba ndiyanelisekile kwindlela izinto zikhona, okanye ngaba ndiba nomsindo, ndithukuthele, okanye ndikhungatheke?
- Ngaba isisu sam sobusuku sichaphazela kakhulu umtshato wam, umsebenzi okanye ubuhlobo bam nabanye abantwana?
- Ngaba umntwana wam unoyolo, unempilo, kwaye uyabonakala ephumle kakuhle?
- Ngaba ndivuyayo, ndiphilile kwaye ndiphumle kakuhle?
Emva kokuba uphendule le mibuzo, uya kuba nokuqonda okungcono nje kuphela okwenzekayo malunga nokulala komntwana wakho, kodwa nangendlela okhuthaza ngayo ukuba wenze utshintsho.
Ukuxhamla Ukuvumela Ukuba Kuloo Maxesha Ebusuku
Ukujonga okulungileyo, ixesha elide, ukunyaniseka kwintliziyo yakho kunokumangalisa ngokwenene. Unokufumanisa ngokwenene uvuyo lobusuku obumbileyo xa kungekho mntu ujikeleze. Indlu iphelele, uxolo ngokuthula. Uyakuthanda ixesha elincinci olwabelana ngalo ebusuku. Kodwa ukuba unomzabalazo ngokunyuka kwexesha lokulala kwintsana yakho yobusuku, ungadinga ukwenza utshintsho kwimikhwa yokukhwela ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba ubone nayiphi iinguqu kwiindlela zakhe zokulala .
Ungadinga ukujonga ngokwakho iimvakalelo. Yaye ukuba uyifumana ukuba ulungele ukwenza utshintsho, kuya kufuneka uzinike imvume yokuvumela ukuhamba kweli nqanaba lobomi bentsana yakho kwaye uqhubekele kwisigaba esahlukileyo kulwalamano lwakho. Kuya kuba nexesha elininzi lokumbamba, ukukhwela, nokuthanda omncinci wakho, kodwa kufuneka uzive ulungele ukuhambisa loo mizuzu ngaphandle kwexesha lokulala kunye nokukhanya kwemini.
Ukukhathazeka NgoKhuseleko lwaBantwana bakho
Thina bazali sinenkxalabo malunga neentsana zethu, kwaye sifanele! Ngobusuku bonke ukuvusa, njengoko sihlolisise iintswelo zobusuku bethu, siye saqinisekiswa ukuba umntwana wethu wenza kakuhle - nganye iyure okanye ezimbini ubusuku bonke. Siyasetyenziselwa oku kuhlola; banikezela ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhusela umntwana.
Abazali abalala kunye nabazali abangekho phantsi kwezi zinto. Nangona ulala ngokuthe ngqo kwintsana yakho, uya kufumana ukuba uye wasebenzisa ukutshekisha kuye rhoqo ebusuku. Nangona elala ixesha elide, awuyi kulala, kuba usengumsebenzi wokhuseleko.
Ezi ziqhelekileyo zixhala, zixhomekeke kwimvelo yakho yokukhusela umntwana. Ngoko ke, ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho alale ixesha elide, uzakufuna iindlela zokuzithemba ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile ubusuku bonke.
Emva kokuba uziqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile xa ulele, uya kuthatha elo nyathelo lokuqala ekuncedeni ukulala ubusuku bonke.
Ukukholelwa Ukuba Izinto Ziyakushintsha Kwakho
Unokuba nethemba, thandaza, kwaye unqwenela ukuba ubusuku obuhle, umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukulala ebusuku. Mhlawumbi uwela iminwe yakho ukuba "uya kuphuma" kweli nqanaba, kwaye awuyi kuyenza nantoni na. Ubusuku obusabunqabileyo-umntwana okhuphayo ngokukhawuleza anquma ukulala ubusuku bonke. Kuyavunywa, oku kwenzeka ntoni kuwe, kodwa umntwana wakho unokuba yiminyaka emibini, emithathu okanye emine ubudala xa yenza! Qinisekisa ngoku ukuba unomonde ukulinda ixesha elide, okanye ukuba ukulungele ukuhambisa inkqubo ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuphelelwa Kakhulu Ukusebenza Kushintsho
Utshintsho lufuna umzamo, kwaye umgudu ufuna amandla. Kwimeko ephelile, sinokufumana kulula ukuba sigcine izinto njengoko zikhona kunokuzama into eyahlukileyo. Ngamanye amazwi, xa umntwana evuka ngelixa lesihlanu ngalobo busuku, kwaye ndinqwenela ukuba ndilale, kulula kakhulu ukuba asebenzise indlela elula yokumbuyisela ekulaleni (ilitye, umongikazi, okanye ukutshintsha i-pacifier) kukuzama into eyahlukileyo.
Umzali kuphela olele ubuthongo obunyanisekileyo unokuqonda into endiyithethayo apha. Abanye banokucebisa ngokucebise, "Hayi ukuba izinto azisebenzi kuni, zitshintshe izinto ozenzayo. Noko ke, ubusuku bonke busuku lubeka kwindawo ephosakeleyo apho into enqwenelayo ibuyele ekuphumeni, izicwangciso kunye neengcamango kubonakala ngathi unzima kakhulu.
Ukuba uzonceda umntwana wakho alele ubusuku bonke, uya kuzinyanzela ukuba wenze utshintsho olulandelayo kwaye ulandele isicwangciso sakho, nokuba phakathi kobusuku, nokuba sisishumi lesibini umntwana wakho ekubizele.
Ngoko, emva kokufunda eli candelo kwaye uqinisekile ukuba wena kunye nosana lwakho lungile, lixesha lokuba uzibophelele ekutshintsheni. Leyo isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo ekuncedeni umntwana wakho alele ubusuku.