Le nqubo kuthiwa kunceda abantwana bezondlo
Ukuba ubusuku bakho bentsana bukushiye uninzi owaziwayo ngeeyure zentsasa, mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba unokwenzani ukuze ulale ukuze alele ixesha elide.
Indlela yeFerber yindlela eqeqeshwe ngayo yokulala yobuncinci eyenziwe nguDkt. Richard Ferber. Ubuchule buquka ukuphumeza ixesha lokulala, kunye nokuzalwa kwakho, kwaye xa evuka, umvumela ukuba akhale ngokukhawuleza ixesha elide ade afunde indlela yokuzihlaziya eyedwa.
Ngaba Oku Kuthethayo Ndimele Ndiyeke Umntwana Wami "Awukhala"?
Ngamanye amaxesha ubizwa ngokuba yi "cry out" indlela, le nkqubo ayifaki ukushiya umntwana wakho ukuba akhonze aze akhale ubusuku bonke, ngokuchasene neenkolelo eziqhelekileyo. Uza kufaka igumbi lakho lomntwana ukuba ulithabathe kwaye ulithuthuzele emva kwexesha elilindelekileyo lokulinda. Kodwa esikhundleni sokumtyhola nokumondla, wenza ukubonakala ngokukhawuleza-ixesha elide ukuza kumqinisekisa kwaye ulungile-kwaye ushiye ekamelweni.
Oku kunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuba ukukhala akuyi kubangelwa okanye kudityaniswe, kwaye emva kwiveki malunga nokwandisa ixesha "lokulinda" lokutshekisha kwakho, inkolelo ithi umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukulala ngokwakhe.
Ekubeni akukho ngokwenene iminyaka xa i-Ferber Method ifanelekile ukuba zonke iintsana zizisebenzise, xela ugqirha ukuba ubone ukuba umntwana wakho usele ngokwaneleyo . Kungaba malunga neeklasi zenyanga ezintlanu ugqirha wakho kukunika ukukhanya okuluhlaza ukuzama.
Indlela yokuphumeza indlela yoFerber
Ngeentsuku kunye neeveki ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise i- Ferber Method , qulunqa iinkqubo eziqhelekileyo zokuhlala ngexesha lokulala . I-Ferber igcina ukuba enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphepha ukulwa nokulala kukuqinisekisa ukuba unobungozi obuhle bokulala njengomntwana osanda kuzalwa. Ixesha lexesha lokulala liyakunceda ukubonakalisela umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza ukuba kulindeleke ukuba alele.
Ezi zihlandlo zinokubeka isiseko sokulala ngokuzimeleyo. Nangona iindlela ezibandakanya ukulila azifanelekanga kwiintsana kunye neentsana ezincinci, unokwenza iindlela zokulala ezizinzileyo kule nyanga zokuqala.
Qala ngokuhamba ngexesha lokulala esele uqalisile. Beka umntwana wakho kwisikhumba sakhe siphapheme. Khanyisa izibane (ukukhanya ubusuku xa kudingeke), tshela ubusuku obuhle uze ushiye igumbi. Yenza oku nangona umntwana wakho eqala ukukhala.
Emva kwexesha elimiselweyo, ukuba umntwana wakho esalila, buyela emuva egumbini kuphela ngomzuzu okanye ezimbini. Shiya izibane, gcina ilizwi lakho lizolile kwaye lizolile. Phatha umntanane wakho ngendlela eqinisekisayo, kodwa ungamthandi. Shiya ekamelweni ngokukhawuleza.
Eli xesha lihlala ngaphandle kweklasi ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele ekuqinisekiseni umntwana wakho njengokuba wenza ngaphambili. Kwakhona, gcina izibane zikhutshwe, ilizwi lakho lihle, kwaye ungamthathi umntwana wakho. Qhubekisa le nkqubo yokuqhubeka ngokulinda ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele kwigumbi lakho lomntwana. Qhubekani ulindile ade umntwana wakho alale eyedwa.
Ukuba umntwana wakho evuka phakathi kobusuku, qala emva kwenkqubo ngokuqala ngexesha elide lokulinda ukususela ekuqaleni kobusuku.
Ngobusuku bobabini, linda ixesha elide kunokuba wenze ngaphambili ngaphambi kokungena kwigumbi lomntwana wakho. Qhubeka uqhubeka ulinde ixesha elide kude umntwana wakho alele.
Ndimele Ndinde Kangakanani Kangaka Ngaphambi kokuba Ndihlolwe Ngumntwana Wam?
UDkt Ferber ubonisa ukuba eli xesha ubude bokulinda ekuhambeni kweengxaki zokulala kwabantwana bakho :
- Ngobusuku bokuqala balinde imizuzu engama-3 ngaphambi kokungena kwigumbi. Ukwandisa ixesha elilandelayo lokulinda ukuya emizuzu emi-5, kwaye ekugqibeleni, imizuzu eyi-10 yesithathu kunye naziphi na iintyelelo ezongezelelweyo ezifunekayo.
- Ngobusuku bobusuku balinde u-5, 10, emva kwemizuzu eyi-12.
- Ubusuku obongezelelweyo: qhubela phambili ukwandisa ixesha ngalinye lexesha.
Kukulungele ukuYilungisa iNkqubo ukuze ulandele intsapho yakho
Hlola indlela indlela yokusebenza ngayo. UDkt Ferber uthi ngobusuku besithathu okanye wesine, iintsana ezininzi zilele zilele. Iintsana ezikhuselayo zingathatha iiveki. I-Ferber iphinde ikhuthaze abazali ukuba balungise indlela kunye namaxesha ukuze bahambelane neemfuno zabo zeentsapho.
Ngokuxhomekeka kwiimfuno zentsana yakho kunye neqondo lakho lokuthuthuzela, unako ukunweba okanye ukunciphisa ixesha lakho lokulinda. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba unamathele kwishedyuli yokulala yokulala, kuya kuba ngamaxesha apho kufuneka uguquguquke, njengokuba umntwana wakho egula, xa uhamba, okanye nayiphina iminye imizekelo.
Qiniseka ukuba bonke abo babandakanyekayo ekunyamekeleni umntwana bayaqonda indlela yokusebenzisa indlela. Ukubambisana kubalulekile ekufezeni impumelelo.
Ukuba izinto azihambanga kakuhle, unokuhlala ukhetha ukuzama indlela yoFerber kwakhona kwiiveki ezimbalwa okanye uzame ukuhamba ngendlela yokulala.
> Imithombo
> Ferber, uRichard. Sombulula Iingxaki Zokulala Zomntanakho. I-Touchstone, ngoMeyi 2006