Kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokubangela ukuba umntwana athukuthele kwaye anenzondelelo. Imvakalelo engaphendululwanga, njengentlungu ehambelana nokuqhawula okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo inokuba yingcambu yengxaki. Imbali yexinzelelo ingakhokelela ekubeni nomsindo onzulu.
Imiba yempilo yengqondo inokudibaniswa nokugquma. Abantwana abanenkxalabo, uxhalaba, i- Oppositional Defiant Disorder , okanye Ukukhathazeka-Ukuphulukana nokuxhatshazwa koxinzelelo lwe-Hyperactivity Disorder ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo.
Akukho nto ihlale yinkcazo ecacileyo yendalo okanye yempilo yengqondo emva kokuziphatha komntwana onomsindo. Ezinye iifana zinexinzelelo elincinci ngenxa yokukhungatheka kunabanye.
Ezinye izingane zibonakala zizalwe ngefestile emfutshane. Abaphelelwa yimonde, abangenakubekezelelana, kunye nobudlova obukhulu xa bengonwabi.
Kwimiba yomzuzwana, isiganeko esibonakala ngathi sincinci singakhokelela umntwana onomsindo ukuba aphelise ngokupheleleyo. Ukujongana nokuziphatha okunjalo okuchasayo nokungaqiniseki kunokunyanzeliswa kuyo yonke intsapho.
Nangona i-age-in-fit for ages to cast out temperance, and early schoolers to break out in some times, kubalulekile ukugcina iliso ngaphandle kwendlela yokuziphatha ehamba ngentla nangaphezulu kweendlela eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha kwabantwana .
Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokulumkisa ezinokubonisa ukuba kufuneka ucinge ukuba ufuna uncedo olusisigxina kumntwana onomsindo:
1. Ukuthukuthela okukrakrayo Ukubambisana nobudlelwano
Ukubetha umntakwenu okanye ukubiza umntu igama ngelixa eliqhelekileyo kubantwana abancinci.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho othukutheleyo uyamkhusela ukuba agcine ubuhlobo okanye isimo sakhe sengqondo siphazamise ukukwazi kwakhe ukuhlalisana ubudlelwane obuhle kunye namalungu entsapho, jongana nalo mbandela ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphandle koko, unokufumana ubunzima obuqhubekayo kunye nolwalamano olude.
Ubomi bakho bentsapho buphazamiseka ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Akufanele uhambehamba ngeenxa ze-eggshell ekhaya lakho.
Ukuba imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke iphazamiseka ngenxa yengqumbo yomntwana wakho, ayinempilo kunoma ubani kwintsapho.
Ukuphuma okanye ukunikezela kumntwana wakho ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka, izisombululo zesikhashana eziza kubakho kwiingxaki ezininzi zexesha elide. Ubundlobongela bomntwana bakho bunokukhula ngakumbi.
Okubi nakakhulu, amanye amalungu entsapho angakhula. Ukuba ulahlekile kwimisebenzi yokonwaba, okanye ixesha lakho kunye nomnye umntwana uphazamiseka, ukuziphatha komntwana onomsindo kuyinkinga efuna ukuyiqwalasela.
3. Umntwana wakho usebenzisa ukunyanzelisa njengesixhobo
Ukunyanyiswa kufuneka kube yinto yokugqibela. Kodwa kubantwana abaneengxaki zomsindo, ukugqithisa ngokuqhelekileyo kuba yinto yokuqala yokukhusela.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ukuxazulula iingxaki , ukulungisa ingxabano , okanye ukucela uncedo, unokusebenzisa ubugwenxa njengendlela yokufumana iimfuno zakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukufundisa izakhono ezintsha kunokunceda umntwana afunde ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuziphatha kakubi.
4. I-Meltdowns ne-Temper Tantrums ayilungele i-Age.
Nangona kuqhelekile ukuba umntu oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala aphonse phantsi aze atyathele iinyawo xa ehlanya, akuyinto eqhelekileyo kumntwana oneminyaka eli-8 ubudala. Ukutshatyalaliswa kufuneka kuyancipha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunye nokunyaniseka njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula.
Ukuba umsindo wengane wakho ubonakala uyanda, kuyisilumkiso sokuba unobunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe.
Uyakudinga ukuqeqeshwa kunye nokuqeqesha ukuze ancede aveze iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela efanelekileyo.
5. Umntwana wakho unokunyamezela ukunyamezela.
Njengabantwana abaqolileyo, kufuneka bahlakulele amandla okwandisa imisebenzi ephazamisayo. Ukuba uneminyaka engama-7-uphonsa amathoyizi akhe wokwakha xa izinto zakhe zidalwa, okanye amaqhwenga aneminyaka engama-9 ubudala aphakamisa amaphepha akhe rhoqo xa enza iphutha emsebenzini wakhe wesikolo, unokufuna uncedo lokwakha ukunyamezela ukunyamezela.
Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Ukuba unzima ukufundisa abantwana bakho ubuchule bomsindo, bafune uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Qala ngokuthetha nomntwana wengane yakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthunyelwa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo kunokunceda. Unyango lunokubandakanya ukujongana neengxaki ezisemgangathweni, ukufundisa izakhono ezintsha, okanye kukunceda ufumane izicwangciso zokuqeqesha umntwana wakho.