Ukuqwalasela ukudibanisa phakathi kokuxhatshazwa nokukhwaza
Xa kuziwa ngokuxhatshazwa nokukhwaza, ukungafani kwamandla okufanayo kunye nezinto ezinobungcipheko zikhoyo kuzo zombini. Enyanisweni, abantu abaninzi baxela ukuba ukubetha kuyindlela yokuxhaphaza. Kodwa kukho ukungafani okufihlakeleyo.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuxhatshazwa ngumsebenzi wobudlova ngumntu okanye iqela labantu ngabanye ngenjongo yokulimaza ngenye indlela ixhoba ngandlela-thile.
Ukongezelela, iphindaphinda kwaye kukho uhlobo lokungafani kwamandla. Okwangoku, ukugquma kunjengokuxhatshazwa kodwa injongo kukuqalisa iqela kwiqela elikhethekileyo ngelixa ukuxhatshazwa kuklanyelwe ukugcina ixhoba liphuma kwiqela.
Ukwahluka kobuqili phakathi kokuHlutha nokuxhatshazwa
Iifom zokuxhatshazwa zingabandakanya yonke into ekukhuseleni amaxhoba ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokubethelwa ngamagama kunye nokukhuphela ngaphandle okanye ukuxosha. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abaxhaphazayo basebenzisa igama-call , i- slut-shaming , i- cyberbullying kunye nokunyundela ukulimaza amaxhoba abo.
Ngokufanayo, ukucutha kungabandakanya ezinye zeendlela ezifanayo kwaye idlalwa ukuvelisa ukukhathazeka ngokwengqondo okanye ngokwenyama, ukuhlazeka, ukuhlazeka nokuhlekwa njengentlonelo. Kodwa abantu ababetha abanye bayingxenye yeqela elinye okanye iqela. Bathethelela ngezenzo zabo ngokuzibiza njengesiko okanye inkcubeko ukuba umntu kufuneka ahambe ukuze athole ubulungu okanye ukumkela.
Kodwa kubaninzi, ukubetha akuyona into ehleliweyo yokuxhatshazwa.
Ngaphezu koko, ngokungafani nokukrakra, ukuxhatshazwa akukaze kufikelelwe ukufakwa kodwa ngokusoloko kulandelwa ngandlela-thile. Okwesibini, abantu ababethabisa abanye basoloko besebenza njengeqela okanye iqela, kodwa abantu abaxhalabisayo bahlala besecaleni okanye njengecacque.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukhwaza kwenzeka xa abantwana bekhulile njengesikolo esiphakamileyo okanye kwiikholeji, ngelixa uxhatshazo luqala kumncinci kakhulu.
Ngokungafani nokuxhatshazwa, ngezinye iinkhathi ukubheja kubonwa njengentlalo evumelekileyo, nangona ingafaneleki. Kodwa nje ngoxhatshazo, akukho nto isisizathu esilungileyo sokubamba.
Iifom zokuHluma
Ukukhangela kungathatha iifom ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Izindlela eziqhelekileyo apho abantu bakhankanya abanye ngaboku:
- Ukufunga okanye ukugculela amahlazo kumaxhoba
- Ukushiya amaxhoba ezidingo ezifana nobuthongo okanye ukutya
- Ukuthintela ucoceko lomntu
- Ukunyanzelisa amaxhoba ukuba badle izinto ezinobungozi okanye iiyure zokubukela ezonografi
- Ukubetha, ukubetha, ukuthintela okanye ukugubha abantu
- Ukunyanzela ukusela okanye ukutya
- Ukunyanzelisa amaxhoba ukuba bahlanganyele kwizenzo zesondo
- Ukubhena isikhumba sexhoba ngandlela-thile
Indlela Yokuthintela Ukukhwela
Akukho ukukhanyela ukuba ukukhwaza kuyingozi, mhlawumbi kungekho mthethweni kwaye kwanezinye izikhathi kubulawe. Ngokubaninzi ukuba abantwana bakho balahleke, ukuthintela ukukhwaza kuyimfuneko kubo bonke abazali. Nazi iindlela ezine abazali abanokuthintela ukunqumla.
Qala ekuqaleni . Njengokuthintela ukuxhatshazwa , kubalulekile ukuba abazali bakwazi ukujongana nemiba yokukhwaza xa abantwana babo beselula. Qalisa ngaphambi kokuba bangene esikolweni esiphakathi kwaye baqhubeke bexoxa ngawo xa befaka isikolo esiphakamileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphambi kokuba bahambe kwiikholeji. Thetha ngeengozi zokujoyina iqela elifuna ukuba benze okuthile ngokuchasene nokuthanda kwabo okanye okuphula amalungelo abo.
Thetha ngokukhwaza. Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba ubulungu kwiqela okanye kwintlangano ayifuni ukubeka ubomi babo engozini. Musa ukutyhafaza ngeengozi ezinxulumene nokukhwaza. Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa imizekelo yangempela yempilo yeziganeko zokukhwaza. Thetha malunga nokufa nokulimala okubangelwa ukukhwaza. Kwaye ukunyanzelisa ukuba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimigangatho yokuqhawulayo kuyangalunganga njengokuba kufikelele ekupheleni kokufumana izihlwayo.
Banike izixhobo malunga nendlela yokujongana nokukhwaza . Ukwazi indlela yokuzimela nokuzithemba kuyisinyathelo sokuqala ekuqhubeni ukukhwaza. Qinisekisa ukufaka ezi zimpawu kumntwana wakho kwaye uthethe ngeendlela zokusingatha ngokukhawuleza imeko yokucutha.
Mkhumbuze ukuba banokuthi bahlale besithi cha kwizinto eziceliwe kuzo. Akukho bulungu beqela elungele ukuhlawula ixabiso labo okanye ukhuseleko lwabo.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba achaze amaqela aphilileyo . Ukuxinezeleka kumntwana wakho nokuba nayiphi na ixesha xa umntu emcela ukuba adibanise ukuba ngubani ukuba abe yinxalenye yeqela, mhlawumbi akunjalo iqela afuna ukulijoyina. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi iimpawu zobuhlobo obuhle kunye nendlela yokubeka imida. Olu lwazi luya kuhamba ixesha elide ekuncedeni ukuthintela iziganeko zokukhwaza ebomini bakhe kamva.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Njengoko abantwana bakho balungiselela isikolo esiphakamileyo kunye nekholejini, qiniseka ukuba uncokola ngokukhwaza kunye neengozi ezibandakanyekayo. Emva koko, qhubekani nithetha ngalo, ingakumbi ukuba bazimisele ukujoyina inkohlakalo, ubudlelwane okanye elinye iqela elaziwa ngamasiko okukhangela. Ngokomzekelo, amanani amaqela, amaqela okuhamba kunye neminye imibutho ibandakanya ukunqumla njengenxalenye yokuqalisa kwabo. Ungaze ucinge ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi indlela yokusingatha le meko. Kunoko, thatha ixesha lokuba nencoko malunga nayo. Uya kuvuya ukuba wenze.