"Ndandihlekisa nje." La mazwi athetha ukuthetha ngokubanzi ngabahlobo, abasebenzisana nabo kunye nabazalwana babo. Kodwa ngaba bazingcolileyo njengoko bevakalayo? Ngaba ngokwenene bawukhuphe i-teaser ekuthwaleni uxanduva lokulimaza iimvakalelo zomnye umntu?
Abanye abantu basebenzisa ukukloloda njengendlela yokudlala ukuze baziva bephantse komnye umntu okanye babonise ubungane . Ngamanye amazwi, badibanisa abantu abahlala bekhululekile kunye kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo badibanisa ngezinto ezabelwe phakathi kwabo njenge-quirk esaziwayo okanye isenzo.
Okwangoku, abanye abantu balungile ekusebenziseni ukunyelisa njengendlela yokuvelisa isifundo esinzima.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha udlala ngokuhlekisa umntu okanye ukuhlekisa ngabo akuyinto emnandi emva kwayo yonke into, ingakumbi ukuba umntu ekupheleni kokufumana akayifumanisi imnandi. Xa kwenzeka le nto, ukuxhatshazwa phantsi kwe-radar, okanye uhlobo oluthile lokuxhaphaza.
Uvavanyo olona luhle lokuba ukuba okanye ungayinxibi nobungane kukuba umntu ekupheleni kokufumana uyamhleka kwaye uhleka kunye. Ukuba umntu ohlekisiwe akahlekanga, ukuklolodela kuye kwawa phantsi kwaye uxolo luya kulandelwa.
Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba ngelixa abantu bahlala bexubana, kuqhelekile ukuba abo bahlehliswa ukuba bangaqondi kakuhle iinjongo zomntu ozikrakrayo. Abaphosoliyo ukukhwabanisa kwenziwa ngothando nangenxa yokuba i-teaser iyayithanda. Esikhundleni saloo nto, iinjongo ezilungileyo zamathambo azibonakali kwaye umntu ohlaziwayo uvakalelwa kukuba amazwana anentsingiselo kwaye ayicasulayo.
Xa oko kwenzeka, wonke umntu uyaziva ekhululekile.
Xa Ukudlala Ukukhahlaza Akufunyanwa Ngaloo ndlela
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abahlobo badlale kwaye bathandana ngothando. Ukuba umntu eklasini wenza into engekho nto okanye i-quirk ehlekisayo, ngokuqhelekileyo abahlobo bayathanda ukumbamba ngaye. Ngokubanzi, abaninzi abantu banomdla-ngokumnandi ngenxa yokuthembela kunye nobuhlobo obusele bukhona.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuklolokra kungabetha isantya kwaye umntu ekupheleni kokufumana utyhafile. Mhlawumbi amaziko okukrokra malunga nommandla abaye baxhalabele ngawo kwaye ukuba nabahlobo bawuchaze nje kuphela. Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, umntu odibanayo uziva edidekile kwaye engaqiniseki. Ukuzithemba kwakhe kuchaphazelekile kunye nokunyaniseka kwakhe.
Xa oko kwenzeka, kunokuzama ukubeka ityala kwaye utsho ukuba kufuneka "ufunde ukuthakazelisa," okanye "akufanele kube lula." Kodwa indlela engcono yokujongana neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu kukuthatha uxanduva kwaye uxolise . Ukugxeka umntu umntu otyhawulwayo kwenza ukuba imeko ingabonakali kwaye ingonakalisa ubungane obunempilo.
Indlela Yokukwazi Xa Ulinganisa Umnqamlezo
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa abantu "behleka" okanye "bahleka nje," basuke benobungozi kwaye baxhatshazwa. Bafihla emva kwamagama athi "ukukloloda" ukuze ubaleke usebenzisa iincwadana ezintsingiselo . Kulezi zihlandlo, ukukhwabanisa kudlula umgca kwaye kuhlaselwa. Olu hlobo lokukrakra, okanye ulwalamano olusondeleyo , lubaluleke kakhulu kwiinkcazo kunye phakathi kwamantombazana anentsingiselo .
Ezinye iifom ezithetha ukukhwaza okanye ukuxhatshazwa kunokuthatha oku:
- Ukubandakanya ekubizeni igama elibi okanye ukuhlambalaza uhlobo oluthile olunjengehlazo lokugcoba kunye nokuhlambalaza i-slut .
- Ukwenza iingxelo ezinenkohlakalo okanye ezimbi malunga nomnye umntu.
- Ukuhlambalaza i-downdowns iguqulwe njengamahlaya.
- Ukusebenzisa ukuhlambalaza ukugculela omnye umntu.
- Ukuthobhisa omnye umntu ngokugxila kwisifundo esibucayi kunye nokungazivumeli.
- Ukufihla emva kwamagama athi, "Ndiyadlala nje!" Okanye "Musa ukukhathazeka!"
- Ukuvumela umntu ukuba abe yinxalenye yeqela, njengenqakraza, ukuze iqela linomnye ukuhleka kwaye lihlekise. Umntu ugcinwa ngeenxa yokuzonwabisa kweqela.
- Ukuklolokra kumntu phezu kwezinto ezingamangalisa ezifana nobukhulu, umbala wesikhumba, unqulo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunye nokunye.
Khumbula, ukuhleka kwezinto ezintle ngokuqhelekileyo kufakazela i-quirk encinci okanye into eyenza umntu athi okanye wenza kwaye bobabini bayifumana into ehlekisayo. Ukuba ufumana ukukrakra okanye iindlela ezifihlakeleyo zokuxhatshazwa emsebenzini, esikolweni, ekhaya okanye kwi-intanethi kwaye ufuna ukuba liyeke, nantsi ezinye iindlela zokuyilungisa.
Buza abaBhuxu ukuba babuye
Isalathisi esihle seenjongo emva kokuhlekisa kukuba ngabahlobo bakho, intsapho okanye osebenza nabo baphendula njani xa ubacela ukuba bayeke. Khangela iimpawu eziza kukuziva ngazo. Kwakhona, ngaba bayamkela uxanduva, xolisa uze uyilahle okanye ngaba kukuhlekisa ngenxa yokwenzakalisa? Okona zimbi nakakhulu, ngaba zihleka kwaye ziphazamise ngakumbi?
Ukuba ubacelile ngokucacileyo ukuba bayeke kwaye bawugcine, susela kuloo meko. Ngamanye amagama, hambani okanye nishiye kwigumbi. Ukuzama ukuzichazela okanye ukuphikisa ingongoma yakho ikubeka kuphela ukukrakra. Emva koko, emva kokucoca ezinye, cinga indlela ofuna ukuphatha ngayo ukusebenzisana kwixesha elizayo kunye nabo.
Ukuba ukukhwaza kuyinto eqhelekileyo phakathi kwabahlobo kwaye usoloko ujoliswe, kusenokuba ixesha lokuqala ukuxhoma nabantu abatsha. Ukuba kwenzeka kwintsebenzo, jonga ulunxulumene nobudlelwane bomsebenzi ukuchonga ukuba ujongene nomsebenzi wokuxhaphaza okanye i-intombazana intombazana. Ukuba ngaba usapho lwenkqonkqo , unokwenza ukuba umise imingcele ekunciphiseni ukukrakra kwakho.
Yicacile kwaye uyiqonde Xa Ubacela Ukuba bayeke
Amaninzi amaninzi xa abantu batshela umntu ukuba ayeke ukubahlekisa, abaqhagamshelana ngendlela eqinile kwaye umyalezo udidekile. Qinisekisa ukuba uxhomekeke xa uxelela abaculi ukuba bakushiye wedwa okanye bawususe. Akufanele ube neengxabano kodwa kufuneka ube ngqo.
Kwakhona, musa ukudibanisa umba ngokudlala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu kunye nento yokuba awufuni ukuhlaziywa. Nangona akudingeki uhlaziye kwiindlela zonke ukugculela kukulimaza iimvakalelo zakho, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba bayazi ukuba kukugubungela, akuyinto ehlekisayo kwaye ufuna ukuyimisa.
Ukuba bazama ukukugxeka kwakhona kwimiba efanayo kamva, bakhumbuze ukuba awuthandi kwaye kufuneka bayeke ukwenza. Gcina umhlaba wakho xa ungathandi ukuhlaziywa. Futhi ungabavumeli ukuba bakuphephe. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba unobungane kwaye uziqinisele xa ukhumbuza.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukuba unobungane obuhle kunye nobudlelwane bomsebenzi obunempilo, akufanele ube nexhala malunga noko bacingayo. Ukuba unyaniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngendlela abahlobo bakho okanye osebenza nabo abaya kuphendula ngayo, ngokuqinisekileyo baxhamla. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyazi ukuba uxhatshazwa kwaye ujongene nale meko, bhetele uya kuba.
Ungabakhuthazi Abantu Ukukuhlambalaza okanye Ukugcoba Kuwe
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu benza izinto eziphathekayo okanye bathi izinto ezikhohlakeleyo ukuze zenzeke. Kwinqanaba elithile, bayonwabela ingqalelo okanye uthando oluza ngokukrazanya. Kodwa kwelinye nqanaba, liyakucaphukisa ngokwenene.
Ukuba ungumntu ongeyithandiyo ukuhlaziywa qiniseka ukuba unqande ukwenza izinto eziphathekayo okanye uxoxe ngamabali angaqhelekanga ngawe. Kufuneka ubaleke ukuzihlamba okanye ukuzibeka phantsi kwiintetho. Ezi ntlobo zezinto zidibanisa abahlobo kunye nabo osebenza nabo. Basenokuyichaza amagama kunye nezenzo zakho njengesimemo sokukudibanisa.
Nokuba usenokuba uzimisele ukukhwaza xa unqwenela ukuhambelana neqela elitsha labahlobo emsebenzini okanye kwisikolo. Kule meko, unqwenela kakhulu ukuba yinxalenye yeqela oya kuwamkela ngenxaxheba njengomntu wonke. Emva kwithuba elithile, ukukhwabanisa kungathatha umlinganiselo wokuzithemba. Ungavumeli umnqweno wakho ukuba uthandeke okanye uthande ukugcina ufumane inhlonipho oyifaneleyo.