Izinto ezinzima kunazo zonke malunga nokuba namawele

Iingxaki ezinkulu kunazo zonke malunga nokuzalwa kwabazali

Phinda ujabule. Ntsi kelelo. Ukuzonwabisa ngokuphinda kabini. Ukuba namawele ngokuqinisekileyo i-dose ephindwe kabini, kodwa abazali bamawele bayavuma ukuba akusoloko kulula. Kukho imingeni ethile xa unamawele. Olu luhlu luhlola ezinye zezinto ezilukhuni kunokuba ziphethe amawele, ukusuka ekukhulelwe yonke indlela kubantwana.

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Ukukhulelwa okunzima

Yeka inhlanhla, ukukhulelwa omnye okuvelisa iintsana ezimbini! Kunene? Nangona kukho iingenelo kwi-pregnancy-for-one pregnancy, kukho nezinye iziphumo ezibi kakhulu ezingabonakalisa ukungathandeki. Ezinye zeempawu eziqhelekileyo zokukhulelwa ziphakanyiswa ngamawele, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukukhulelwa kwamabini kuzisa iingxaki ezingathandekiyo. Ingozi eyongeziweyo yongeza uxinzelelo kunye nokwesaba kwiimeko eziphathekayo. Kungenxa yoko, ukususela ekuqaleni, ukukhulelwa ngenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke malunga namawele.

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Ukungabi Nokulala

Uhlwaywe! Uninzi lwabazali abanamabhaso e-bluya bayavuma ukuba ukungabikho kokulala kuwona mbi kunabo bonke ngokuba namawele amantombazana. Naliphi na umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa unokugcina iiyure ezingaqhelekanga, kodwa ukulungelelanisa iimfuno zamantombazana amabini kuthetha ukuba ukulala kuyinto engabonakaliyo kubazali bamawele. Ukuphelelwa ngumzimba kubangela ukungqinelana kwimeko esele ixinzeleleke njengoko abazali befunda ukujamelana neentsana ezininzi . Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba kusebenze xa kuphumla kakuhle, kodwa abazali bamawele mabafunde ukuhlala besemibhobho yobuthongo obulinganiselwe kwiminithi kuneeyure.

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Ukufumana ixesha elilodwa kwixesha elilodwa

Ngaba kunene ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndijikeleze? Xa abantwana befika ngexesha elidlulileyo, abazali banokufumana iindlela zokuzibandakanya nabo ngabanye. Kodwa abazali bamawele baziva bexhalabele kakhulu ukuba banokutshintshana ukutshintsha iindaphinde zabo, abamele bahlanganyele uthando lwabo kunye nenkathalo yabo xa bazalwa. Iimfuno zobomi banamhlanje zihamba ngokukhawuleza ixesha elifanelekileyo kwimisebenzi yentsapho, amathuba amaninzi angenamkhawulo wokusebenzisana nomntwana ngamnye. Nangona kunjalo, loo nto ingqalelo kubalulekile ukuphindaphinda njengoko behlakulela ulwazi lwabo. Inetyala yenye yezinto ezinzima kunabo bonke malunga namawele.

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Logistics

Ukuba ngaba ngabazali beewele kuphela babeziindawo ezimbini ngexesha elinye! Ngezandla zombini kuphela, kukho amaxesha apho akunakwenzeka ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zababini ngamawele ngexesha elinye. Iqala kwiintsuku zokuqala ze-twinfancy, kunye neentsana ezimbini ezidinga ukondliwa, zityhulwa, kwaye zatshintshwa ngexesha elifanayo. Imingeni iyaqhubeka njengeninzi ihamba kwaye ayinakufumaneka. Kodwa akupheli apho. Njengamawele akhula kwaye athathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi, ukugcinwa kweendawo ezimbini zexesha elifanayo kungaba nzima. (Ubusuku obusemva ukuya esikolweni buya kuba yintsikelelo ethile xa amawele eenkalo ezihlukeneyo !) Enye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke kubazali bamawele asetsheni kukuthutha ngeenxa zedolophu ukuya kwiziganeko zentlalo.

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Isikhwama

Wonke umntu uthatha ukuba amawele ahamba phambili. Ngoxa, ngokubanzi, oko kungenjalo, abazali beamawele banokuhlala babelana ngecala elinebali . Ukhuphiswano phakathi kwamawele luqala ngokumangalisa ebomini, kwaye i-squabbles ingaba nzima kakhulu. Umjikelezo oqhubekayo wokulwa kunye nosompempe ngumthwalo kubazali. Abazali abaninzi bayavuma, ukuxhamla kunye nokuncintisana phakathi kwamawele ngeyodwa yezinto ezinzima kunabo bonke ngabazali.

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Ukulingana nokulinganayo

Ngabantwana ababini baneminyaka efanayo, kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu kubazali ukugcina yonke into elinganayo. Into oyenzela enye, kufuneka uyenzele enye. Ufuna ukuba babe nokufikelela okulinganayo kwizixhobo kunye namathuba. Kwaye uninzi ufuna ukukhanyela ukubonakala kokudlala intandokazi okanye unike elinye i-twin inzuzo ngaphezu kwesinye. Ingaba ngumgudu onzima, ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uthabatha, ufumana uxhaso olufanelekileyo kunye nesabelo esilinganayo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba abazali bazama kangakanani, abanakuphumelela ekufezekeni; Ubomi nje abufanelekanga.

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Ubuntu

Ulwalamano lwewele luyingqayizivele kwaye luyinkimbinkimbi. Amawele ayingabantu, kodwa ayingxenye yeewele ezinamandla. Abazali bahlawuliswa ngokubakhulisa njengabantu ngabanye, kodwa ihlabathi lifuna ukubona abantwana babo njengesethi. Ukuthelekiswa kunye nokuchasana kuvela kuzo zonke iinqununu, kwaye abazali bafanele balwe namaqhinga abo ukuze bangaxubuliswanga iimpawu zomntwana omnye. Abazali bafanele bakhuthaze amawele abo, kodwa akusoloko icacile ukuba uyayifeza njani. Izigqibo zinzima kwaye kukho ukugxeka kuwo onke amaxesha. Ngaba kulungile ukugqoka ngokufanayo ? Ukuzigcina kwiklasi enye ? Khuthaza ubuhlobo obuhlukeneyo? Babiza ngokuthi "amawele"? Ukukhulisa amawele njengabantu ngabanye ngokuqinisekileyo kukho enye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu.

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Umyalezo

Uyayazi into endala, "iintloko ezimbini zibhetele kunezona"? Ngokuqinisekileyo oko kubonakala ngathi yinyaniso kunye neentlobo zabo. Xa enye inkwenkwe iyakwazi ukuphazamiseka, xa ufumana amawele amabini kunye, i-messes ingaba yinto enkulu. Ngokuncedisa izandla ukuxelela umsebenzi kunye nesibindi kubakhuthaza ngokukhuthaza abantakwabo, abazali abaphindaphindiweyo kufuneka balungele ukuhlangabezana nesabelo sabo seentlekele.

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Iimeko ezifanayo

Kukho iinkalo ezininzi ezinzima zokuba ngumzali. Kukho ixesha elinzima kunye namazinga okuzama. Into enzima malunga nokuba namawele kukuba abazali kufuneka bajongane namaxesha amanzima kakhulu kunye nabantwana ababini kwangoko. Masithethe intetho, ukuqeqeshwa kwamathambo , umsebenzi wesikolo , ukutshatyalaliswa, ukuqhuba umtsha, ukutshata. Abazali kufuneka bahlule ingqalelo phakathi kwabo babini abantwana, bahluke indlela yabo (kwezinye iimeko) kwiingxaki, kwaye bafumane isisombululo ngasinye. Nangona maxesha amahle, iindawo ezibalulekileyo zikwabelwana kwaye kunokuba nzima ukugcoba kunye nokuxabisa ngamanye amaxesha. Imihla yokuzalwa , usuku lokuqala lwesikolo, u-prom, ukugqweswa zonke iziganeko ezabelwana ngazo.

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Ulwahlulo loLuntu

Enye yezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu zomzali ubona umntwana wakho ebuhlungu okanye edidekile. Kwaye ngoxa amawele ahlala efumana abaxhamli beemfanelo kunye neziqhamo ngenxa yobume babo bamawele, ngamanye amaxesha banokuchaswa. Basenokuthi bangabandakanywa kwimisebenzi okanye banganakwa ngamathuba atholakalayo kuma-singleton. Eminye yemingeni yokukhula iyanzima kumawele. Ekugqibeleni, onke amawele aya kudibana xa umntu engamenywanga kwiqela okanye umcimbi. Baya kunzima kwimimandla yoluntu okanye babe nobunzima nabangane . Amanye amawele ayenamaxhoba okugculelwa okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Le miba nzima kunomnye weengxaki ezininzi kumamawele omzali.

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