Ukufumana iindaba zokuba ukhulelwe ngokugqithiseleyo . Ngokukodwa emva kweenyanga okanye iminyaka yokuzama, unokuziva unethemba ngakumbi ngekamva lakho kunexesha elide.
Nangona kunjalo, kunye novuyo lwakho, usenokuziva uxhalabile, ukhathazekile, okanye ukwesaba. Uyazi ngakumbi kuninzi yezinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle ngexesha lokukhulelwa-ukufumana amanqatha amaninzi kumgangatho wokuvavanya ukukhulelwa akuqinisekisi umntwana ekupheleni.
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Ukukhulelwa akuyiyo uMlingo, UlonwabileXa sisebenzelana neemvakalelo zokungapheli , abaninzi abantu bacinga, "Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukukhulelwa, ndingonwabile." Ngaphandle kokuba asebenze ngokufanayo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive unoyolo kwaye ukhathazekile xa ufumana ukukhulelwa kweendaba. Kwakhona, ukukhulelwa kunye nokudakumba kwesithuba esithile kubangelwa ngabasetyhini abanobunzima bokukhulelwa. Oku kunokuba yi-hormonal ingxenye kwaye iyingcipheko ekubandezelekeni kokusweleka. Ukujamelana nokuxinezeleka okukhulelwe akuthethi "awubongi" okanye "unina" unina. Akusiyo iphoso lakho.
Musa ukubamba zonke iingxaki zakho ngaphakathi. Fumana ubuncinane omnye umhlobo onokuzimela kuye. Kwakhona, cinga ukubona umgqirha . Yonke inzima yokukhathazeka ingabonakali ngokukhawuleza kunye nokuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okulungileyo okanye nangemva kokuzalwa komntwana. Kukulungele ukucela uncedo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unokudandatheka , nceda uthetha kwi-OB / GYN yakho. Kukho izizathu zonyango ezinokubangela uxinzelelo kwaye unononyango olungakumbi kunokuba uqaphele.
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Ukunyaniseka KwisindululoUkuba ujongene nokungabi nantoni kwithuba elithile, mhlawumbi unabahlobo abaye bazama ukukhulelwa. Ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo be-intanethi okanye amalungu eqela loxhasayo , ukuba nabahlobo abangenabantwana abangakwaziyo ukuqonda apho uvela khona banokuthuthuzeleka kakhulu.
Kodwa xa ukhulelwa, unokukhathazeka ngabahlobo bakho abangenabantwana. Unokuvakalelwa ngathi "uyawashiya ngasemva." Unokuvakalelwa kukuba ufuna ukuphazamisa ukuzonwabisa okanye ukuqonda ngokugqithiseleyo ukuthumela ukukhulelwa kweendaba kunye nemifanekiso kumajelo asekuhlaleni. Awufuni ukuzilimaza. Ungabelana njani ngeendaba zakho zokukhulelwa?
Isohlwayo lomsindisi luyinto eqhelekileyo neyesiqhelo emva kokungabikho komntwana. Khumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho umehluko phakathi kwe-grart-myrle yokukhulelwa kunye nomnye ozama ukuyi-conceiver.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, ukuva iindaba ezilungileyo ezizama ukuzama ukuzenza-umkhumbuli zinikeza ithemba kunye kunye nemihlali. Ukukhulelwa komona kuhlukile xa "omnye wethu" ngeendaba ezilungileyo.
Thetha nabahlobo bakho kwiimpawu zokungabikho. Ungabashiyi ebumnyameni malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho. Yabelana nabo ngeendaba zakho zokukhulelwa ezindlebeni .
Kwijelo zentlalo, khumbula ukuba kunokwenzeka (kwi-Facebook nanini) ukuvimba abantu kwizithuba ezithile okanye ukwabelana ngezithombe kuluhlu oluthile lwabahlobo. Le yindlela enye yokufumana ityala malunga nemifanekiso yokwabelana. (Kodwa bacele abahlobo bakho ukuba bacinga ukubona izithombe zakho zokukhulelwa ngaphambi kokuba uzivimbele. Bangafuna ukubona!)
Ukuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo, cinga ukuthetha ngetyala lakho. Kuya kunceda ukucima umoya. Uzoziva ukhululekile ukuhamba phambili. Ukuba useklasini lokuxhasa, khuluma nenkokeli malunga nendlela uguquko oluvela kwiqela lisebenza ngayo. Kukho ukukhulelwa / ukuzala emva kweqela lokuxhasa abantwana abangasondeli. Ukuba akukabikho, mhlawumbi unokuqala enye!
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Ukulahla kuya kwenzekaUfumana uvavanyo lokukhulelwa olufanelekileyo. Ewe! Kodwa ke, unokufumana uvavanyo kwakhona emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa. Ukuze uqiniseke. Unokungabaza ukuba ukhulelwe ngokwenene uze uvale intliziyo okanye ude ubone i-ultrasound yokuqala.
Kwibala elimnyama lokukhanyela, unokukhathazeka ngokuxhamana nosana olungakazalwa. Kwaye unokuba ukhathazekile ngokulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa owenqabayo ngokomzwelo ukuxhuma kumava.
Musa ukuxhalaba ukuba awuyi "udibene" nomntwana wakho ongakazalwa. Ngethuba nje xa udla uphinde uphuze nje ngokuba ukhulelwe, kungekhona "ukudibana" nomntwana ongakazalwa kuya kukulimaza okanye umntwana. Enyanisweni, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba ungabambiswanga kunye nentsana yakho entsha. Inkolelo yokuba le mvakalelo ibonakala ngokubonakalayo ekuzalweni. Kuthatha ixesha kwaye kulungile.
Gcina izikhumbuzo zokukhulelwa okukufutshane nawe. Faka isithombe sakho sokuqala se-ultrasound kwifriji yakho okanye ugcine uvavanyo lokukhulelwa oluhle kwigumbi lakho lokulala.
Zama ukuba ungangeni kwisicatshulwa sokuthatha iimvavanyo zokukhulelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuze "uqinisekise" usakhulelwe. Basenokuba ngokwemvelo bahluka ebumnyameni, kwaye oku kunokubangela uxhalabhiso olungadingekile. Ukuba ukhathazekile ngokubambisana nomntwana wakho omtsha okanye uvakalelwa, cinga ukubona umgqirha ogxininise ekuzaleni okanye ukuxhalabisa okunxulumene nokukhulelwa .
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Ukushiya iKlinikhi yakho yokuNyanga ingaba nzimaInkqubo yokukhulelwa ingaba izaliswe iimvavanyo zegazi, rhoqo i-ultrasound, kunye nokuya kwiikliniki yokuzala . Unokuxakeka kakhulu ngomsebenzi wokukhulelwa. Emva koko, ngethuba elithile, ugqirha wakho wokuzala uza kudlulela kwi-OB / GYN rhoqo. Akunakuze bafune ukukubona kwiiveki ezimbalwa.
Ukusukela kwiindawo zokuqokwa kwansuku zonke okanye ngeveki ukuya kwinyanga nganye kunokungabi naso. Unokukhathazeka phakathi kokuqeshwa kwabakho "into engalunganga," nokuba yonke impawu ibonisa ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nokukhulelwa okukhuseleyo, okungazalanga emva kokungapheli . Ukuba kukho iingxaki okanye ukukhulelwa kwakho kubalwa njengomngcipheko ophezulu, ungadinga ukuhlola okungakumbi. Kodwa nje ekugqibeleni ukungabikho kwengqondo akuyiyo enye into ebonisa ukubeka iliso. Ugqirha wakho akakunaki. Bathi nje bakuphatha njengoko benzayo ukukhulelwa okunempilo. Kwaye into enhle!
Thetha ne-OB / GYN yakho malunga nokungahambi kwakho. Oogqirha abaninzi bazimisele ukukubona ngokuphindaphindiweyo uxolo lwengqondo. Abanye oogqirha baya kukuvumela ukuba ubize phambili kwaye uhlele isithuba sokuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukujonga isigxina senhliziyo nge-doppler ephathekayo. Ewe, ukuba unayo impawu ezikhathazayo okanye iimpawu zengxaki , unganqikazi ukubiza ugqirha wakho phakathi kokuqeshwa.
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Ukukhulelwa Kwakho Akunakuba NgumzekeloNangona ukukhulelwa okuninzi emva kokusweleka kwinto eqhelekileyo, ukuthetha ngokulandelelana, unokuba ngumngcipheko ophezulu kwiingxaki ezithile zokukhulelwa. Ubungozi bakho buya kuxhomekeka ekubeni kutheni ungeke ukhulelwe, imbali yakho yokukhulelwa kwangaphambili, impilo yakho yangoku kunye nesisindo, nendlela owakhulelwe ngayo.
Ukuba uthathe izidakamizwa zokuzala , umngcipheko wokukhulelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo uphezulu. Amawele kunye nokukhulelwa kwethathu kuza nomngcipheko omkhulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Umngcipheko wezithuba zomsebenzi ongaphantsi kwexesha uphakamileyo kwabasetyhini emva kokusweleka, nangona ukhulelwe umntwana omnye kuphela.
Ukuba ngumngcipheko ophezulu weengxaki akuthethi ukuba kuya kwenzeka. Lezo mngcipheko zisenokuba zincinci. Kwakhona, ngenxa yeengxaki ezithile, akukho nto wena okanye ugqirha wakho angenza ngokungafaniyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ungafaki uxanduva oluninzi okanye ulawule kakubi kuwe ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo.
Thetha ugqirha wakho malunga nobungozi obunokujamelana nawo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Buza into ongayenza ukuze unciphise loo mngcipheko, ukuba nantoni na. Ngokomzekelo, umsebenzi wexesha elide unokwenzeka ukuba unokwenzeka xa utyilisiwe okanye ungondli kakuhle. Enye indlela ongayenza ngayo ukunciphisa ingozi yakho kukutya nokusela ngokufanelekileyo.
Umsebenzi wezithuba ezinokuqala ungaphinda ubanjwe xa ubanjwe ngokukhawuleza. Ukwazi izibonakaliso neempawu kwaye xa ubiza ugqirha wakho kunokunyusa iingxaki zokuthwala umntwana wakho kwixesha okanye ubuncinci uphathe umntwana wakho ixesha elide ukuba ungazi ukuba abasebenzi baqala ngokukhawuleza.
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Ngokukhawuleza Ukhathazekile Uyenze Iphutha"Mhlawumbi awuhlosile ukuba ngumzali." Le ngenye yezinto abantu bathi (kodwa akufanelekanga!) Kubayeni nabasetyhini abazama ukukhulelwa. Kucaphukisa kwaye kuphazamisekile (kwaye akunjalo).
Emva koko, ukhulelwa uze uqale ukukhathazeka malunga noko kuza kwenzeka xa umntwana efika. Inxalenye encinci yakho ingazibuza ukuba bonke abo bantu babenelungelo. Mhlawumbi ungazange uhlolwe ukuba nezingane. Mhlawumbi, ngandlela-thile, ukhohlise isithuba ekunikeni umntwana nakuba ungekho umzali. Ukuba unezi ngcamango, awunabo.
Nabo abo abangazange bajongane nokungabikho kwengqondo banokukhathazeka ukuba ngaba baya kuba ngabazali abalungileyo. Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo.
Thetha nabantu malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Ingaba uthetha kumhlobo okanye umgulana, ukuxhalabisa kwakho ngokukhawuleza kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba akunakwenzeka kangakanani.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba akudingeki ukuba ufumane indlela yokuba ngumzali ngokwakho. Kukho amawaka amabhuku, amanqaku, kunye namavidiyo ekuzaleni. Unokuphinda ubuze intsapho yakho, abahlobo, isazi sesidumbu sezingane, kunye neengcali zabazali ngeengcebiso. Ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa ukuba kukho ezimbalwa izimpendulo ezichanekileyo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuba ngumzali omhle, ekugqibeleni uza kufunda ukuba yeyiphi isitayela sakho somzali.
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Ukuziva uhlanga olungaphantsiUkuzama-uku-conceivers kubakho ukuqokelela kunye nokuxhasana kwikhompyutha. Ingaba ngokubhengezwa, amaqela ezentlalo zoluntu, okanye iiforam, ufumana abantu abafumana oko kuthanda ukuzabalazela ukuba nabantwana. Uba ilungu lesisizwe esingenamntwana.
Emva koko, xa ukhulelwe, kunokuvakalelwa kukuba ulahlekelwa ikhadi lakho lobulungu. Kukho indawo ezininzi-kwi-intanethi kunye nabafundi abatsha abakhulelweyo nabazali abatsha ukuxhuma. Kodwa unokuba uzive ungabikho ndawo kunye nabo besizwe.
Ulahlekelwa ubulungu bakho kwisizwe esingenasiphelo emva kokuba ukhulelwe okanye unomntwana. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ungendawo kwindawo yokuqala. Yilumkele ukuba ungacingi ukuba awukwazi ukudibanisa nabasetyhini abakhulelwe ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Unokuba nokunye okufanayo kunokuba uqaphele.
Kukho amaqela enkxaso kulabo abakhulelweyo okanye abazali emva kokungabikho komntwana, kokubili kwi-Intanethi kwaye bavaliwe. Qhagamshelana nommandla wakho WENZISA uqhagamshelwano ukuze ubone ukuba unayo iqela lomntu.
Xa unayo "omama abathandekayo", khangela indawo ekhoyo xa kunokwenzeka. Mhlawumbi umama othile akakwazi ukuhambelana nomjikelezo wakho we- IVF , kodwa mhlawumbi uye wafumana isisu. Okanye mhlawumbi unezinto ezithandanayo ezifanayo ezingabantwana. Ungavumeli ukuba inzala ibe yenazisi kuphela.
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Kukulungele ukuKhalaza ngokukhawulezaUhambo lwakho lokukhulelwa lusebe lude kwaye lukhuni kuninzi. Kodwa emva koko, unako ukuqonda yonke imzuzu. Ukubona ukugqithisa kokuqala kwi-ultrasound, ukuva intliziyo (okanye iintliziyo zintliziyo!) Ngokokuqala ngqa, kwaye ukuziva ukukhaba ukuqala kukubalulekileyo kwiintombi ezininzi. Kuwe, loo minyaka yomzabalazo iya kukwandisa ulwazi lwakho nolonwabo kule mizuzu. Ba no kuzisa iinyembezi.
Kodwa uya kuba nexesha xa ungahlali ujabule. Amaxesha xa unganakaneliseki okanye ungaziva ugulo oluhle kakuhle , izibilini , uzive ukhululekile. Usenokuba uchithe iminyaka ujikeleza amehlo akho kwabasetyhini abakhalazayo malunga nokugula kwasekuseni okanye ukungabikho kokulala xa umntwana usufuna. Ngoku, apha, unqunyelwanga ukukhalaza.
Kukulungele ukukhalaza. Kulungile ukuba awuyithandi imzuzu nganye yokukhulelwa kwakho. Kulungile ukungafuni ukuhlanza zonke iintsasa. Kwaye kulungile ukuziva uphelelwe ngumntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa.
Ngexesha elikhethekileyo, lirekhode. Unokufuna ukugcina i-journal okanye i-scrapbook, thabatha ividiyo ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwakho ugqirha ukuze ubambe isandi sokuqala senhliziyo, okanye ulandelele imifanekiso yokukhula kwakho kwiveki ukuya kwiveki. Unokufuna ukwabelana ngala mavidiyo kunye nemifanekiso-kwi-media media, kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho, okanye uzigcinele.
Ngexesha elinzima, funa ufumane uncedo. Awudingi ukuzingqina nje nge-supermom. (Ngendlela, ama-supermom ayingqungquthela. Ayekho ngokwenene.) Okubaluleke kakhulu, nceda, khalaza ukuba uvakalelwa. Emva kokuba yonke into oye uyenzile, ufumene ilungelo!